Beyond Judgement ; The Power of Forgiveness as the ultimate Revenge

Let's be real.

We are human. We make mistakes all the time. Sometimes we hurt someone, sometimes someone hurt us. And the cycle goes on and on and on.

Let;'s discuss deeper. 

Scenario : We bully someone because they make a mistake .  We try our hardest to shame them ( face shaming etc) as a punishment over the sin they've done.

Without We Realizing, We Are Actually Taking Over God's Job .

1. Why does people judge so easily ?

Human naturally form opinions, but rushing to judge without understanding leads misconception.

Either the judement were made towards someone we knew or someone we just met or someone we bumped into at school,work,or wherever, should be kept in our mind only. There's no need to share it or voice it .  Put it in our mind that Allah is Al- Hakim. Only Allah have the right to judge .

2. The Hidden Burden Of Being Judgemental

Realize it or not , judging others often reflects our own insecurities. We can be denial all we want but deep down we know really well what is wrong with us. We gain nothing from being judgmental.

The result of being judgemental? It creates negativity , distances in relationships, and prevents self growth.

Surah Al- Hujurat ( 49;12) explains really well. I'm gonna share with you the shorter version of the ibrah from the Ayat.

1. This verse commands believers to not assume the worst about others that can lead to sin .

2. Do not Tajassus on others which it can lead to misintepratation,rumors and broken trust.

3. Backbiting is comparing to eating the flesh of a dead brother . It destroys relationships,cretaes hatred and spread falsehood. Talking badly about someone even if it is true is also sin.

3. Forgiveness ; The Strongest Revenge

When we forgive , we break the cycle of negativity , Holding grudges gives power to the person who hurts us, but forgiving takes back that power .

Be like the Prophets , The Prophets endured insults but responded with kindness.

Normalize when you have nothing better to say, then be silence.

4. How to Be Less Judgemental And More Forgiving

* Pause before forming opinions 

* Empathy Over Criticism

*Remember We Have Flaws As Well

Tie back to the idea that the best revenge is showing their negativity does not define you.

Remember, forgiveness is not for them, it's for YOU 💓